Does this sound familiar?
Sometimes we spend so long meeting other people’s expectations that we lose touch with who we really are and what we really want.
You say 'yes' when you mean 'no', then feel resentful or exhausted.
Setting a limit brings a wave of guilt and worry about others might think.
Rest feels like something you have to earn.
Your inner critic is never quiet, you are speaking harshly to yourself
“Boundaries aren’t about pushing people away. They’re about making room for yourself in your own life.”
Why people often wait to seek support
If you’ve built your life around being reliable and self-sufficient, asking for help can feel like a contradiction. Focusing on yourself can feel indulgent, which is often exactly the pattern that needs attention.
Low self-worth isn’t a character flaw. It’s usually something learned, often long ago, and what’s learned can be looked at again.
How I can help
I offer a space where you don’t have to be useful, impressive or easy to be around. You can simply be yourself, including the parts you usually keep hidden.
Together we can explore where the critical voice comes from, what people-pleasing may once have protected you from, and what it might look like to give yourself the respect you give others.
I’ve worked for many years with people who seem to be holding everything together, and I understand how hard it can be to admit you’re struggling when you’re the one everyone else leans on.
For some adults, a late ADHD diagnosis brings a new way of understanding years of feeling out of step. This is an area I have a particular interest in.
Free 15 minute call
A chance to talk briefly and see whether working together feels right.
50 minute sessions
Usually weekly, in person in Berry Hill, Mansfield or Online across the UK.
Single 90 minute session
A single focused session to work through a particular issue or decision.
Make a start, get in touch
Taking the first step can feel difficult. You do not need to have everything worked out or know exactly what to say. A short message is enough to begin.
I will respond personally within 24 hours. There is no pressure to book counselling after the initial conversation.
